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和高智商的男人交往会出现哪些问题?

和高智商的男人交往会出现哪些问题?

原作者:Kat Li

译者:若水

事先声明一下:我喜欢高智商的男人。我交过的男友都是我十分敬重的聪明人。然而,我发现也有一些不愉快的事随“高智商”而来(不知它们是相关关系还是因果关系):

过于争强好胜

他们知道自己很聪明,也想让女友也明白这一点。有时,他们会为鸡毛蒜皮的小事与你持续争论好几个小时,因为他们无法忍受“输”的感觉。这会给你带来困扰,因为有时为了维护与对方的关系,你不得不心甘情愿地承认他们是正确的(即使你确定自己是对的)。

自负

高智商的人习惯了成功,所以他们很难跨过失败的坎儿。聪明人生气、闷闷不乐也不是没听说过。

心灵手不巧

他们终其一生视脑如命,虽头脑发达,但四肢不发达。他们不知道如何给汽车换油,如何用双手建造任何东西(除了电脑)。

过于专一

这和上一个观点类似。有时,高智商的人极其专注于某一专业领域,以至于忘记这个世界的其他方面是多么的有趣。尽管他们专攻的领域不同,但总体而言他们缺乏对其他领域的求知欲。

不合格的老师

作为他们生命中重要的贴心伴侣,你可能逐渐对他们的专业产生兴趣。你可能觉得从你的伴侣那里学习相关领域的知识是再好不过的方法。但是,我先事先声明一下:有时,越擅长的人越难向他人解释明白。一个专家很容易忘记初学者入门时的艰难,忘记让外行人思路卡壳的知识要点是多么的难以理解。这会让老师和学生同时陷入困境。

自命不凡

如果你不是他们领域里的内行,他们可能会无意中说出伤人的话,鄙视你的专业技能。一定要留意这一点。在你和这个人正式交往之前,请确保他真的尊重你和你的职业。

原文地址:http://www.quora.com/Dating-and-Relationships-1/What-are-the-disadvantages-of-dating-highly-intelligent-men

 

英文原文:

As usual, a preface: I love highly intelligent men. All of my serious relationships have been with very smart people whom I respect a lot. However, I have noticed a few not great things that often seem to come with high intelligence (correlation not causation?).

  • Over-competitiveness. They know they’re intelligent and they want you to know it too. Sometimes they’ll argue the most inane things with you for hours on end because they can’t stand losing a point. This can be problematic because one needs to willingly concede a point (even when you know you’re right) for the good of interpersonal relations sometimes. Relatedly …
  • Egos. They are used to succeeding and so dealing with a loss can be hard for them. Sulking and/or moping are not unheard of.
  • Lack of manual skillz. Because they’ve emphasized the brain all their lives, sometimes the brawn is lacking. They won’t know how to change the oil of a car or build anything with their hands (that does not become a computer).
  • Single-mindedness. Similarly to the last point, sometimes highly intelligent people are so intent on their one area of specialization that they forget how interesting the rest of the world is. Although they have differentiation, they lack a broader intellectual curiosity.
  • Bad teachers. Being a good significant other, you may become interested in their area of expertise. You may think learning about it from your partner is ideal. However, be forewarned: sometimes, the better one is at something, the harder it is to explain it. As an expert, it’s easy to forget how hard it is in the beginning or at which points an amateur may get stuck. This can lead to frustration on both the part of the teacher and the student.
  • Snobbery. If you are not knowledgeable in their area, they can inadvertently make hurtful comments that reflect a disdain for your area of expertise. Watch out for this. Before you embark upon a serious relationship with this person, make sure they really respect you and what you do.

 

 


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